The Biblical Law of Effectiveness works within the confines of purpose for Marriage

Genesis 2:24 - Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

God’s purpose for companionship and effective relationship is leaving and cleaving. Cleaving can only be complete when spouses leave their parents.

To cleave means to - to cling, stick, stay close, cleave, keep close, stick to, stick with, follow closely, join to, overtake, catch

Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

God’s purpose for marriage is that Husbands model Christ love for the Church toward their wives. This includes – Being willing to view things from the wife’s perspective. Jesus came down from Heaven so he could be identified with his bride the church and by doing so became able to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin (Hebrews 4:15).

Being willing to lay down his life for his wife - This not only means to protect her but to also be willing to give up ones desires and aspirations if they cause conflict with her needs and desires. “Christ set this example in the garden of Gethsemane becoming obedient to death when he declared not my will but thine be done” It’s putting her before oneself. Christ laid down his life for his bride the Church.

Being faithful – Christ faithfulness to his bride remains even after his ascension to be seated at the right hand of the Father. He ever lives to make intercession for his bride (Hebrews 7:25)

Being Patient – Christ is never impatient with his bride (1 Corinthians 13)

Being a servant - For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many. Some husbands have the idea that their wives are to serve them 24 hours a day.